Hey Rockstar, Andres Aras here with Attraction Academy and today we’re going to talk about:
“Why Men Fail with Women And What To Do About It”
One of the great things about my career, is that I get to travel a lot and today I’m in beautiful San Francisco.
I was hoping I’d get a good view of Golden Gate Bridge but it was too windy and you couldn’t hear a thing in the video.
This is Coit Tower and it’s still a bit noisy in some places & crowded in others, so I’m in a little corner with a great view.
But let’s talk about the real reason you’re here. It’s not for the view.
The real reason you’re here is because you want to know “why is it that men fail with women”?
The primary thing about “why men fail” is because we haven’t been taught this stuff!
It’s not your fault! You didn’t know what you needed to know!
Nobody sat you down & actually said, “hey, here’s what creates attraction.”
Well, let’s see if we can demystify a little bit of this.
The Number 1 Reason Why Guys Fail With Women: No Strategy
The first reason why men don’t do well is that we don’t have a strategy.
We guys don’t know who our ‘Ideal Woman’ is. And not knowing who our ‘Ideal Woman’ is puts us at a severe disadvantage.
Not because women know who their ideal guy is.
It’s like Goal Setting if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there.
And by not knowing who your ideal woman is, you’ll settle for the wrong one or you won’t find the right woman.
So you need to know who your ideal woman is because if you do you’ll know
- What places she frequents,
- How you have to look because you’ll understand what she’s attracted to.
- You’ll know exactly what to say.
- What kind of questions to ask her when you meet her to see if she’s what you’re looking for.
And then if for some reason it doesn’t work out
5. You’ll also have an exit strategy
So those are the things that you must absolutely know and have a strategy about.
The Number 2 Reason Men Fail With Women: They’re Walking Bags of Tactics.
Some guys might have gone out and learned a little bit of skills, a few lines and a few techniques.
But then they become a walking bag of tactics.
“You” are not authentic.
“You” are not yourselves.
“You” are not real.
And by the way, when I say “you’re not yourself”, that means you’re not your BEST self.
You have to be your best self at all times in order to be able to accomplish all of your goals, all of your dreams, all the desires that you absolutely positively deserve.
So you have to be authentic. By being authentic that means you have to know who you are.
You have to know what you’re about and you have to know what your stand for.
So the next thing is that you have to be authentic.
That actually leads to…
Reason Number 3 Reason Why Guys Fail With Women: We’re “Nice” Guys
The goal is for you not to be a nice guy, but to be a GOOD guy.
Versus becoming a douche bag which is the complete opposite of being a nice guy.
Most guys are genuinely nice guys who care about people and want to make sure that everybody’s okay in whatever situation we are life.
The problem is “Nice” guys don’t have standards and boundaries.
And by not having standards and boundaries, everybody will just run all over us.
And that is what defines a NICE guy.
You’re always saying “yes” and that’s how you get “friend zoned.”
When she wants something and you say “yes” all the time … you are just a “friend”.
If you have standards and boundaries, she’ll know that she can’t just run over you.
And you become a little bit more of a challenge.
That’s how you become a good guy.
So along with being authentic and knowing yourself – you have to have your standards.
You have to have your boundaries.
You have to know who you are.
You have to do a lot of introspection.
So a lot of what we at Attraction Academy do is help you be a better man.
These are the three top reasons men fail with beautiful women:
1) We don’t have a strategy in knowing who the ideal woman is.
2) We aren’t authentic to ourselves and
3) We’re just a nice guys without standards & boundaries.
Let me add another thing,
Sometimes because we are nice guys, we decide to ask women “What Do They Want?”
The reality is they have no freaking clue!
Just like most guys have no freaking clue what it is that we want in women.
And because they have no clue, women tell us things like “well you know he’s gotta be funny. He’s gotta make me laugh. He’s gotta be sweet.”
All these things that are ‘nice guy’ qualities.
And we think:
“Well I’m that, I’m that, I’m that” and then they end up dating some ‘bad boy’.
It’s because they don’t really know what they want and they don’t have standards and boundaries.
That’s why some women end up where they end up.
Now there are some women that actually do have this and these are the high quality women that we’re trying to go after.
The ones that know who they are and that know what they want.
So don’t listen to what women say, watch to what they do.
I hope this helps.
The questions for you are:
- What are you going to do to make your life better?
- What are you going to do to take care of this part of your life?
- What are you going to do to change your life?
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